For those whom do not know what a Kinsey Scale is I would advise you to visit this wonderful introduction and explanation of how one works. The Kinsey Scale is a way for someone to point to where they are in their sexual identity and orientation. It is well known for being something that many bisexuals use to show and explain where they fall into that big umbrella of possibilities. I figured that since I run this blog a little about me would be interesting for my readers.
What kind of bisexual am I? This is not an offensive question at all to me. I am not a special snowflake. I am bi and I am not a "whoa is me" type. It is a great question and if anyone has been looking at the posts on my blog they can see a pattern for sure. In fact, the pattern is so very in your face that some would say, "duh, of course it was right in my face!"
I have not really talked much about other men on this blog and some will wonder if this is due to my self-identity; my place on the continuum. I mean this blog if I had not been out you would think was ran by a red blooded heterosexual male. After all I have had more than one article on the State of womanhood these days. As well as articles talking about being a man of value to a woman whom can see. As well as writing about men needing to have self-love and confidence.
Yet, I am very much open on here about being bisexual and I am not about to be put into any closet. I am also not going to be put into some "gay closet" either. I am not gay I am bi and there is one hell of a difference. My strongest and most vivid sexual fantasies are with women and I am not ashamed to admit this. My Porn watching habits have been always predominantly straight and lesbian. Even when I identified as "gay" I watched only straight porno. Yes, I have watched gay porn, but, it does not do much for me at all.
At the same time I have dated and made love to numerous men; would again with the right person as well. I have been madly in love with other men and also madly in lust. I have desired to be in many men's nice shapely back-door. However, I do fantasize more about women than other men. I also am not someone whom never fantasizes about men. It is just I am more likely to think about women on a more regular basis. I am also far more likely to see me walking hand in hand with a woman in my fantasies.
All of this should come as no surprise to anyone that has been reading my site. After all if I was thinking about men all the time in an emotional and sexual way one would see many more posts about that on the site. This does not mean I do not see men and say wow! I do absolutely after all that is what makes me Bi after all. Yet, as I said earlier I fantasize more about women and also would love to find my own companion.
So, how about which my body reacts more to? Whom gets my rocks off the most? Well, define that for me please. If you mean whom I have climaxed with more than the answer lies with women yet again. In terms of penetrative sex there was a long string of men I penetrated without having a single orgasm. While I have never slept with a woman when I did not make them orgasm and I as well. So, in this regard women also win out as well.
How about emotions? Well, I have loved and lost people of both of the genders. My earliest feelings were for members of the opposite sex while my first feelings for a man was when I was 18. The same thing can be said for my sexual desires. I never recall feeling any sexual desires till I turned that same age. Why things changed I do not know and nor do I care really. I am proud of whom I am as a person.
Which brings me to the conclusion and actual answer to the question a hand. Where on this scale do I put myself? Well, based on my own experience at being whom I am I would put myself at a 2.5ish on the Kinsey Scale. I am not in the closet and I am not self-hating. Nor am I "gay" in any sense of the word. I am a very much opposite sex leaning bisexual man.
This does not make me any less Bi at all. Having any sort of capacity for emotional and/or sexual desire for both genders is the definition of being Bi. What kind of bisexual am I? I am a Christopher Murphy bisexual. I am me and I am free!
