Male Privilege is a Myth

The use of classification and differences to dehumanize and the manosphere

If you have ever listened to a video from the Skeptic Community online you will sometimes hear words that seem out of place. You will hear these same words in various places within the broader manosphere as well. I am referring to terms like beta, omega, cuck and among the PUA's "everyday chump." Often, when someone disagrees with someone else usually a man they will start calling them these sorts of terms as a way of saying "these men are not men at all."

Instead of saying that person is wrong or even evil as an individual and has bad ideas. Instead of rebuking their grey matter and attacking their ideas they make things personal. They make claim that if you do not think like me your manhood is in question. Or in some scenarios these folks will attack the man's orientation as if that matters. Or they will call them something like Soy Boys or such things. I am surprised they are not using the term sissy. It would do the same thing and create a similar split between men.

I very much am not in favor of using these terms for anyone you disagree with. Even if you think someone can be a beta male disagreeing with you is not the determination of that. Hell, even being a vile far left peace of shit is not being a beta male. These men are making things personal and attacking other men's very gender identity as a man by making it seem like their identity is warped or defective because of their views. To them alpha, beta and omega are not just different classifications for places in the social hierarchy they are the differences between being able to speak as a man or not.

Alpha males are not just men with specific traits which have a human constructed label placed on them based on the behavior of animals of certain kinds. To them Alphas are the only real men the only men that are not deformed and even disordered in their thinking. That Betas are the programmed and surfs of the left and or downright evil depending on the person if you have a penis. That Omegas are useless, a genetic dead end and so you should just go kill yourself. Oh, and dare not be a cuck which is not even reserved for an actual cuck as in participating in cuckholding an actual fetish some men and women have.

This is downright disgraceful and shows how little labels and their definitions actually mean to so many people and especially in certain places online. Someone not being an Alpha Male does not equal being evil, bad, wrong or disordered as a man. So, no one should be calling people with bad ideas these names. Further more it helps to push a narrative that dehumanizes men that do not fit into certain labels and definitions. It pushes the idea that men, and maleness is not simply being biologically male, but, requires more. It paints a picture that breaks up into groups that can be harmed because after all they are not human they are not men.

Dehumanization of men is already pushed by the far left progressive authoritarian groups and a great deal of the mainstream. One does not want that to continue even more into some groups of men that are human and some that are not. Just because someone disagrees does not make them evil that has its own definition. Some of the men called these names might actually be evil,  but, if they are it is their ideas that are evil. They could be adopting these ideas out of ignorance and be perfectly fine people that just need to learn the truth. However, even if they were in fact evil in their politics does not mean you are justified in dehumanizing them and basing that on their status as a true man.

You do not need to be an "Alpha" to be a real man. You do not need to be a high status male to be worth value. You have value where you are doing whatever productive work you are engaging in by virtue of producing value in the world through your production in it. Going even further a homeless man with no job and no friends whom requires help through voluntary charity to get on his feet is still a man of possible immense value. All humans that are not truly evil and even those whom are evil by ignorance have the possibility of great value in the future. A man whom seems to have no skills at all can still and often will find something that they can outright master that thing which brings joy to as the old saying goes their very soul. Men do not need to be at the top to be worth your respect.

If you find men espousing evil ideas do not attack their humanity or their manhood. Attack the fact they hold evil ideas and find out why they hold those ideas. They maybe misinformed and ignorant a kind talk might just set them on the correct path no need to dehumanize and treat them unjustly. However, if you do inform them the truth and they do not want to the right thing than you can call them truly evil. Yet, this does not mean they lack being human and that does not mean that if they are not threatening to initiate harm to others or their property there is no right to be lower case evil. There definitely is such a right it is called freedom of conscious and as long as they are evil in peace even this level of person does not deserve to be dehumanized. Call them evil and not less than a man. There are plenty "real men" that have been in favor of evil and vile ideologies in this world.

Individuals that are betas, omegas and cucks do not deserve to be tarred with the brush of all being evil and vile people by associating them with people that hold bed or downright evil ideas. Being into cuckholding is not necessarily evil you need to know the motivation behind living the lifestyle. Being somewhere other than the cock of walk at the top does not make you less of a man. Being not good with women or other men if you like them as well does not make you less than a man. Being someone that does not fit into some specific place in some label does not make you less of a man. It definitely is not the equivalent of being evil and to think you have anyway of taking others man cards because of differences between you and that individual man is thinking you can play God. Essentially you are no better than the SJW's that want to take away men's man cards for not being in lockstep with Feminists

Masculine traits, feminine traits and just plain human traits.

If one actually looks up on Google or some other search engine the words masculine traits one is sure to find numerous results. Some of them will be your generic "be the Alpha" sort of sites. Some will be the average dating type website. Others will be about Evolutionary Psychology an actually backed up science of human nature. Meanwhile still others will be "game" websites which preach their ways will get you the girl if you work it right. 

Sometimes you can find very useful and truthful claims about what is masculine psychologically and feminine psychologically. Other times what you find is snake oil salesmen pitches. Still further there is also a whole bunch of blatantly anti-male feminist crap online as well which calls masculinity toxic. When one is wondering what is masculine and what is feminine the net can harm as well as help your mindset. There are some really good websites dedicated to men and masculinity. There is also a bunch of junk. 

Let me state first of all I do not think being feminine actually makes you less of a man. However, I do find there to be a difference between a masculine and feminine man. These are not matters of one being worth more than the other when it comes to human worth and value. Just because people are different even within the same sex does not mean those differences have any moral or ethical weight. You judge a person by the contents of his character and not how limp or firm his wrist is. However, I do find that the differences do exist for sure. 

I have taken more than one Gender Identity Expression and psychology test on the net. I find I always get the same results more or less. I end up with either a standard or very high masculine metric on each one of them simply by answering authentically about how my brain works when presented with certain situations. Some of these situations are more generic than others. Further still some psychological testing simply uses descriptors and sliding scales of where you sit in regards to it. 

Also, one must differentiate between what ones brain thinks or responds like and whether said person actually acts in accordance with those thoughts. A person could think in a more masculine way than they act in the actual environment around them. One could also think more feminine typical than they act as well. Not every little reflex, thought or desire manifests in behavior or mannerisms. The point being that metrics do exist that are not just some airy fairy nonsense and I would never argue otherwise. 

Yet, some things that seem to get lumped into the feminine side sometimes is to me patently bullshit and not feminine at all. For example the BEM sex role inventory puts compassion in the feminine box. So, I get like 20% -40% feminine on some tests along side 100% masculine in the same exact test. Mainly due to things like compassion being coded as being feminine instead of just being a human trait and perfectly compatible with being in the masculine box. So, men whom take these tests get coded by default as some sort of androgynous being simply for being human. 

So, men are incapable of being caring of others is basically what this misandric anti-male nonsense is trying to say. The standard non-androgynous man is an uncaring, cold hearted prick? This is complete nuttiness to say that the moment you might somewhat care about anything you are becoming like a woman. There are things that are definable and masculine or feminine, but, that is not one of them. It is a human trait that manifests irregardless of what is in between your legs. Often men's compassion is shown differently, but, it sure as hell exists.

A good example would be crying and I will use myself as an example of men's feelings. If I were to be super sad about something to the point I was possibly going to have my eyes become watery I would never cry around a stranger. I just would not if I cry it needs to be around someone I trust or better yet alone with no one around. During my more depressive days at work for example I would never cry if I were to work in the center. Tears do not help me work at all it is an unproductive behavior. Now, when I got home if the issue was bad enough a small little bit of water might come down my chin, might, but, maybe not either. 

This is not due to being told not to cry I was far from told boys do not cry during my childhood. It is because my way of behaving during times of sorrow is different from the way the average woman would because I am a biological male. It is in large part due to the fact that mens tear ducts literally work differently physiologically than a womans does. It literally takes a lot more for them to get the equivalent physiologically to what something small can do to a womans tear ducts. This is a masculine trait based completely on what happens to males when they go through puberty. It is biological differences which make men seem to be less compassionate when we simply show emotions differently. 

What about men that do cry a lot? Well, odds are they had something else happen to them in the womb to make it so they were less masculine and sex typical in that way. The point I am trying to make though is that just because emotions are expressed differently by men does not mean we do not have them. To argue we do not simply because men do on average have more emotional mastery in that way is to misunderstand human nature itself. It is to in essence make an argument that men are not human and never can be unless they deal with emotions the way a woman would. To argue that I see the word compassion and say I agree makes me or any man any amount of less masculine is absurd.

When it comes to myself I do not plan on dropping my masculine self-identification simply because some test tries to say I am whatever percent feminine. That would be equally absurd as some of the tests assumptions are. In the end of the day I am just going to as Allan J. Frantzen puts it Grab My Balls and own my manhood not some random testers that know nothing about me. I refuse to put the source of my own self-esteem at the mercy of people whom obviously do not think very highly of men in general.  

Mass Shootings are not the result of men or masculinity

Earlier today I took a look at my Google News feed only to see misandric bullshit flash at me as headlines. It looks the Feminazi side of the far-left is now parading around the idea that "toxic" masculinity holds responsibility for the recent mass shootings that have taken place. Further than that they went onto try and say all mass shootings are a product of this "toxic" masculinity. This is nothing less than the pure unadulterated hatred of men and their core characteristics as men known as masculinity. 

Somehow being masculine has been once again interchanged for mental instability possible in any member of the human species. It has been tagged with being the worst of human traits with women and the feminine being pure as the driven snow never violent or insane. This is historically and objectively wrong. In the real world any woman you meet could turn out to be a hysterical psycho as much as any man. Women also rape, women also pillage, women also shoot other people and women kill all the time. 

It is in human nature to have the possibility to embrace either being a good person who does not harm others or to embrace instead the evil part of human nature and go on a rampage. It has nothing to do with what is between your legs if you are going to do vile things. It comes down to the way your brain is functioning and also how your mindset is within that brain. It comes down a lot of times to brans that are damaged. For example brain tumors have turned sane folks into pedophiles and violent dangerous individuals. 

It is not just men that are violent all humans have the ability to do violence and sometimes that is completely justified. What people do not want to admit is people that people misusing violence are in fact choosing to use something that could be used for great good for the wrong things. Violence is not interchangeable with harming innocent people that is only one manifestation of this very important part of our human nature. No humans have ever been the so-called Noble Savage, but, we have been a savage alright. Violence can and has historically been used over and over for great good. 

Fighting off the barbarian hordes that want to rape and kill your tribes is built into our evolutionary psychology. It is in our deepest levels of our brains wiring to be prone to violence and extensive violence if needed in order to defend the village innocent from the barbarians at the gates. This is just in our nature as the species that we are. Sometimes that nature also can be misused for great evils and people can be manipulated into doing horrible things with the great power called violence. As Uncle Ben said "with great power comes great responsibility." It is something that we hold in our hand at any time which is why we need institutions that work to mitigate the violence. We call them governments. 

The truth is that masculinity is all about historically the opposite of harming others. It is the men that have historically fought off the predators and protected the innocent. They are the ones that were majority in the role of defenders and fighters on the front lines against the psychopaths that killed. It is the men as hunters that protected the women and children of the tribe living lives as disposable to the needs of the tribe for protection and provision. Indeed these men were often fighting other men whom themselves were also intending to protect their own tribes and too being disposable for their own tribe. It was a fight of two groups of men both considering what they were doing as protecting their own. 

Far from being the cause of mass shootings and modern day violence masculinity is most embraced in the people that jump in to help people out from that violence. All the security, police, firemen and so forth that jumped in for example in Las Vegas are portraying masculinity and embracing their manhood. Just like the women that jumped in and helped were showing the best in their femininity and womanhood. Mass shooters and other scumbags are embracing the darker side of human nature and anyone can do that the gender does not make a difference. Masculinity is not toxic being a dangerous psychopath is which is genderless. To say masculinity is toxic is to collectivize all people with a penis to being x, y or z.

We are in a weird time where all men are being called the bad men. We are constantly being told by the fem-fem the nutters in gender that all men need to repent for the actions of a few. That being a man is an original sin no different than being born into a world as fallen by Fundamentalists. Men are not bad because some men do bad things. Men are not all rapists and murderers. Men are simply usually going through our daily lives trying to show to the world we are people of good character. Trying to have good friends, decent families and find our partner or companions. Most men you meet will not be assaulting you or harming you in anyway. 

  

CT-GRI/BSRI Gender Role Test results: Masculine 100% and Feminine 44% making me Typically Masculine.

Gender is not a spectrum it is a biological reality and it is absolutely a binary. Sexuality is a scale for most non-exclusively-heterosexual animals.

I have not written anything on sexuality for a while nor on gender itself either. However, I ran across some videos on gender, gender identity, sexuality and sex on Youtube. Some of which seemed like I was in fairy land while others were very good. So, it came to mind to clarify some important biological truths about our species of which some will surely balk at. Let us begin with gender AKA sex of the human being.

Yes, gender and sex ARE biologically one and the same thing. If you are born with a penis 9.999999 times out of 10 you will grow up with no issues in your brain about identifying as a male. The same goes for being born with a vagina and identifying as a female. Why? Not due to social conditioning as social Justice nuts and radical feminists would claim. Due to the fact that your brain is either male or female just like your body absent being faced with the mental illness/ medical condition known as Gender Identity Dysphoria (previously known as Gender Identity Disorder prior to the latest addition of the DSM.) Transsexualism or Transgender folks have a form of dysphoria due to one major fuck up in their Mother's Womb or possibly other external factors.

999999999.999% of men have a perfectly ordinary male brain and the same for women with female brains. There is no "fuck up in coding" if you will due to other factors and they have the normal brain that their hormones and chromosomes under normal circumstances of child birth and womb experience produces, The norm for a properly produced offspring in animals of our species is an animal that has by the time puberty is over a full understanding and acceptance of their "gender identity" and sex which are both aligned. This includes in their sexual desires. Which is why most people have an attraction to the opposite sex including people with attraction to the same sex. It is why most non-exclusively heterosexual human animals within our species is in fact on a scale of bisexual and not exclusively homosexual in nature.

The existence of gays and lesbians does not in anyway support the idea of ones sex and gender being different. Far from it as the only difference between a gay and non-gay is how pushed towards one side of the scale of human sexuality you actually are. I am not here arguing as some do that all people are bisexual far from it. In fact, the majority and natural norm of our species is exclusive opposite attraction. If someone is gay and non-conforming that does not make them a third or fourth gender or sex. It makes them a person whom for whatever reason has not developed in the usual way that most people of their gender do. For numerous reasons ranging from pre-birth experience to possibly feeling they need to be non-conforming to conform to their orientation and be accepted by others. Or even not being allowed to develop in the natural way they would have without outside interference.

Someone for whatever reason it is being non-conforming does not make them any less male or female, any less a man or a woman. It does not make Gender a Spectrum in anyway shape or form. On the contrary it shows gender is a binary and that one will exist somewhere on that binary. An androgynous person is someone whom has attributes of the opposite side of the norm of the binary one is normally on not a sign there is no binary. An effeminate person is feminine whether a man or women. A masculine person is masculine whether a man or a woman. There is only the two and being either completely on one side or showing traits of the opposite side of the same binary. This is because there is only two genders which correlate with the two sexes. Most men/human males are masculine most of the time. Most women/human females are feminine most of the time.

What is a scale or spectrum if you will is human sexuality and that is something that most people will not talk about. Most people whom are not-exclusively heterosexual can be found on a scale, a grid or a spectrum. Some people are on the low end like 2 or 2.5 using a Kinsey Scale for example. Some are in middle right down the line and others are on the far end like 5 or 6. If you are a complete homosexual or gay/lesbian you are on the 6. That is someone whom never ever would be interested in the opposite sex ever. If you are a Mostly-Heterosexual bisexual or a Mostly Straight person you are on the opposite end being a 1, 2 or 2.5. With the stereotypical bisexual with no preference whatsoever being dead center with a 3 or middle of the scale without numbers. Someone whom is more into the same than the opposite, but, still has some opposite attraction would be like a 4 and so on.

There is also a mistake that just because there is a plethora of mental if you will Archetypes that a masculine or feminine brain can take up in life it means it is not masculine nor feminine. This is also a big mistake. There is lots of molds that a man can fit and still not be effete or anything. There is also a number of molds a woman can take and still not be masculine or butch. None of these molds means that either person is not masculine or feminine. That there is no binary and that said person does not fit on one side or the other of the binary. Much like the fact that most people even with a bisexual orientation fall somewhere to one side with only certain people being dead center with no preferences at all. The binary is real and it is based on genetics, brain formation and chromosomes. For example; not all men are fixing motors right now, but, they are also not usually wearing Tutus either.

I for example am a masculine man, but, I am not a football jock. I would still be considered if one were to look at me and tick little boxes all man. I tend for example to not be over emotional when I am in a normal mood. I tend to be more stoic the older I get. I have no issues as I get older taking the lead and making decisions. Some of which have been big ones, but, I have had to make them anyways. I have become more assertive and Alpha like if you will the older I have gotten. The fact that I have a pink tie in my collection does not all of a sudden cancel that out about me. This is because there are many manly and masculine archetypes that all kinds of different, but, still completely masculine men fit into. I would argue the last thing a truly Grab Your Balls Man cares about is what people think of him.

This is a sort of diversion, but, the point is the binary is real and all people for the most part fit into it somewhere and somehow. There are only 2 genders and there are only 2 sexes. There is a scale of orientation, but, people tend to cluster more leaning one side or the other mostly. With most people leaning more towards the ending up in relationships with the opposite side. This is just a fact of nature and Mother Nature is a tyranny not a constitutionally limited governing system. People need to stop with all this non-Binary more than 2 genders stuff. Just because you might differ in how you express yourself does not make you someone whom is not the biology that makes up your very DNA. Nor does it mean you actually have Gender Dysphoria unless you have been officially diagnosed as such by a trained medical professional.

Manhood, Masculinity, Manliness : A re-orientation and review of masculine vs feminine

When I began this blog back in the end of last March and going into April I presented a very detailed explanation of masculine vs feminine. A very detailed outlay of manliness and manhood in general vs what some people think is manliness. In this post I am going to do a review of what masculine is vs feminine. What manliness in fact is VS not being manly. What manhood means in general.

The definition of masculine is as follows; having qualities appropriate to or usually associated with a man.  Of or relating to men or boys; male. Characterized by or possessing qualities traditionally attributed to men. Or things associated with a masculine brain/mind/spirit. 

The definition of feminine is as follows; Of or relating to women or girls.Characterized by or possessing qualities traditionally attributed to women, such as demureness. Effeminate; womanish. Or things associated with a feminine brain/mind/spirit. 

The definition of manliness is as follows; Of, relating to, or characteristic of men, especially when considered traditionally masculine, as in being courageous or direct. 

The definition of manhood is as follows; The state or time of being an adult male human. The composite of qualities, such as courage, determination, and vigor, often thought to be appropriate to a man. 

I want to point out to you that nowhere in these definitions taken from the Merriam -Webster dictionary do you see being a Football playing jock or anything. Not that I think jocks are bad people, but, I just want to point that out. Someone whom is a Comic Book geek or a Science Nerd could just as easily fall into this definition. Someone whom wears glasses with Pink frames (wink wink) falls into this definition too. There are things to do with masculinity that is so much more than surface level cues. I am all man, I am masculine as fuck, I am also someone that has had NSync and Backstreet Boys on my Youtube playlist.

I want to point out that so many of the surface and superficial bullshit out there bandied about to do with masculinity is not listed in the very definition of masculinity itself. That does not mean there are not any masculine or feminine things objectively. There absolutely is, but, superficial nonsense is not where those objectively masculine vs feminine things are. There is very much an inner core and life to masculine traits that exists. A=A and masculine = masculine, but, that does not = what everyone thinks it does. 

Masculinity VS femininity in a person is to do with ones mind/brain/spirit. It goes so much deeper than just the surface level BS that people take for the truth of the matter. It is made up of fundamental spiritual values at the core of a man and his being. Men; all men no matter whom they bed can have masculinity at their core. As long as they are in align with their Inner masculine core as a man. Something that can be accessed through serious introspection and realizing your inner nature as a man in our species. 

Have you as a man ever felt compelled deep from within to protect someone else? That is your manhood speaking, your masculine brain firing off testosterone soaked circuits to do your natural "job" so to speak. It is the primal part of your maleness talking to you; your evolutionary psychology and part of what makes you a masculine entity/spirit/brain/mind. Protection is a masculine spiritual virtue and value traditionally speaking. Men have traditionally for obvious reasons been the protectors of their tribe and it is from Sexual Dimorphism.

Have you as man ever felt compelled to provide for someone else; more than likely a woman or someone younger than you? Once again that is your masculine brain firing off primal urges to provide for women and children in your tribe from back in the days of Hunting and Gathering. So, wanting to provide for others is in fact an extension of misfiring in a way of looking after your woman and your offspring. This is a good misfiring because we can use it as a form of benevolence and good will towards others despite not being kin. 

These are only two of the many biologically masculine things that lie in all men; irregardless of whom you bed all men. By virtue of going through puberty and being drenched in testicle juice this is whom you are deep at a primal and evolutionary level if you are a male human being. Does this mean no women protect or provide for others? No, but, women that are doing this are showing for whatever reason to be displaying masculine tendencies and traits. Or as I call them Manly Women of Honor. Applaud them and give them a shout they rock!

What I think we really need is a re-orientation back to the true orientation and meaning of masculine. Away from the superficial BS spread by feminists and also equally BS spread my MGTOWS whom claim that wanting to protect/provide for women is a social construct. We also need to remove the collectivism inherent in both the feminist outlook and so many of the "brotherhood" people in the MRA. Both feminism and elements of the Men's Human Rights movement are just as collectivist. Philosophical altruism is underlying both movements. Men's drive to do men things is an individual drive. Neither all women nor other men as a collective hive mind are entitled to those drives. 
 
We also need to remove the idea that Pick Up Artists are somehow the only real men. Or that masculinity is the same as being able to get chicks left and right. Men need to be able to be happily masculine without a single woman around. Masculinity is not a performance it is a truism about men and the way our minds work. Let individual men celebrate as they so choose a re-orientation back to what it really does mean to be a grown ass man and not what idiots on both sides of the isle want men to be. Let us all just be ourselves; relish in the joys of being a man and all that means. In what it means to be ourselves. Just be ourselves irregardless of how others want to label us this or that.

So-called Academic Paper claims "masculine same sex attraction" is Male Misogyny.

Sometimes you read something so ludicrous it makes you feel like hitting your head on your desk. Recently I came across a paper that made me want to do just that till my head bled, but, as I am sane I did not. A group of Radical feminist Scholars in academia are claiming that masculine bisexual and homosexual men are somehow brainwashed fools. Or are devious fiends depending on how you read their paper. That they are in fact "becoming part of the masculine ideology of female oppression." Yes, men not sleeping with women are oppressing them if those men are not effeminate and are in fact manly men. The insanity is so high it leaks off the page into the air. 

It is pointed out that most effeminate bi and homosexual men stop being feminine and begin to de-feminize as they called it usually during or following their adolescents. Is this pointed out to be the obvious testosterone flood of hormones and brain chemistry during this formative time of a growing boys life? The most obvious culprit that they have if anything received the replacement flood for the testosterone they might have missed out on in the womb? Nope, not at all it is that they are giving into "their oppressors" the heterosexual patriarchy. I have never heard such ridiculous inane bullshit like this in a long, long time. 

So, manly and masculine homos and bis are basically Trojan Horses in disguise and they are even worse "repressing their true selves." Bullshit, masculine men that have or even might continue to be with other men are not "repressing their true selves." This is just what and whom they are and nothing more. The idea that bi and homosexual equals an effete pussy with a purse for a mouth and a swish for a walk is totally built up from a straw man. There are 6 pack ab, Greek god looking, swaggering Alpha male bis and homosexuals just as much as there is heterosexuals. 

This is insane! Most men whom have been with other men you would not even know had been. They do not walk around saying look at me I have been with another man. They are just a typical man with a typical masculinity. In fact, most men that have been with men turn out mostly straight as they grow up and more than likely end up in long term commitments to women. I have noticed this myself with myself currently having no desire to pair bond with a man. I would still sleep with one, but, I have no desire for a commitment to a man at this time. Nor is a man my first choice for mating, but, I am not going to deny with the right one I could. 

The role of biology and that we are talking about men is never considered in this article. The idea that a man could "masculinize" over time just due to internal hormonal and neurological forces is not even considered. The idea that men have a hormone called testosterone which when in balance and properly circulating tends to cause masculine behavior and interests is not even considered. That there is an interplay with society and nature or biology and neural programming is never considered. The idea that testosterone will change your voice when you get enough of a rush of it is not even considered. Or your walk or anything else they might be meaning.

Next we move onto their thesis that the only reason to detest Queens and "feminine" men is because of the hatred of women. First of all it is not true in the slightest. To point out that it seems exaggerated and performative over authentic when you run into a flaming queen is not saying you hate or detest said person. It is simply pointing out, "hey man you do not act like that all the time it comes and goes.. just be yourself." Also, there is a difference between being "feminine" and a catty toxic bitch like most "feminine" men act and Queens are the worst. They have all the worst traits of the biggest bitches and toxic women with a penis. Sorry, they just do! Trust me I have been around the community long enough to know!

I am not a fan of flaming gay men at all to be honest. Their attitude drives me crazy and I put that as the reason over anything else. It has nothing to do with a hatred of women or even the feminine per-say. It has to do with their attitude and it has to do with their behavior. On both scores they drive me batty and the fact that so many of them are presented as the face of bisexual or gay men drives me bananas. It is my opinion that "community" needs a major injection of men with proper masculine virtue and whom do not go out of their way to perform a stereotype. Give me a man whom is not closeted, but, not a camp "Queer Eye" wannabe any day! It is performative and it is annoying!

 

 

I love Being Masculine!

No, Donald Trump Flag burning should NOT be criminalized! It is called Freedom of Speech!

Sorry, Mr. President, but, burning flags is defended by this little concept called freedom of speech and expression. It is defended by the 1st Amendment right you as a Republican nominee is supposed to defend under the Constitutional Republic of the United States of America. You do not get to throw a fucking hissy fit when you are offended by speech. You are acting no better than the rioters whom are rioting you if you think it is OK to go after the free speech of people that want to say something you disagree with.

You do not get to dictate the removal of the cornerstone of the Republic because you are an elected Republican president. It is your elected duty as a Republican to defend the 1st amendment of the constitution just like all of the other bills of rights. You made an entire campaign on being against political correctness and what do you end up doing? Being just as afraid of being offended as the Social Justice Warriors. You are claiming to be a Republican and you dare consider yourself an Alpha Male.

Alpha Males do not care what other people are doing as long as they keep their hands to themselves. They do not try and squash other peoples rights. They if anything do not give a shit what other people think. Oh, Mr. President you are being a Beta Cuck crybaby ALA a Male feminist. Whining and complaining because something offends you makes you a try hard phony not an Alpha Male. It started with your calling out the Hamilton stuff. Now it is the flag and what happens to it. For such a strong man you are sure acting like a weak little boy.

Grow some fucking skin and let your balls drop again.. if they ever did yet to begin with. You are more and more looking like a poor excuse of a leader of the Free World. You are slowly losing lots of support with this sort of stunt. Man the fuck up for fucks sake! You are like 70 fucking years old you need to act your fucking age! Not your shoe size! Words and peaceful demonstrations are not something to be afraid of. Nor are they something to interfere in!

This real and true alpha is not happy with your performance so far in your elected post. If you decide to legally act on this garbage and go after the 1st amendment you can suck on my Alpha male cock! And don't you dare spit either! I do not defend the rioters and looters, but, I do not defend you infringing on people's rights either. Mr. Trump you are now President Cuck Elect if you go through with this. Freedom of speech trumps your Trump feels you little pussy! 

Why I will fight peacefully for the right of a "community" I find toxic

I talk a lot about how toxic GBLT communities are on here and how they are toxic. I stand by this statement and will not take what I have said back. However, that does not mean I want these peoples rights to be toxic curtailed by The State in fact far from it. The best way to learn to be more moral is to reap what you sew and not to have force initiated on you. These people will get what is coming to them naturally and one does not use force because one has a disagreement even over concretes. Unless that concrete is the initiation of force itself. 

The toxic community should have its own ability to live as it sees fit no matter how toxic that is. People whom are Kinsey 5-7's have the same individual rights as people not on the scale or at the Straight end like me. I do not wish harm on said individuals which is why I want to point out that the world is not crumbling. Trump will not be repealing Marriage rights or anything of the sort. In addition, even if he did want to he cannot it is a Supreme Court Ruling. The USA system does not work that way.

Everyone has individual rights and own themselves, anything else is to condone slavery. So, toxic people have the right to be toxic. They also have the need to face consequences and reap what they sew they do not get protected from themselves. If Mr. Pence decided to initiate force against the community I would be the first to step in line to defend them. I might not agree with the type of people you are and your mindset. I might not agree with your behavior and exclusivity, but, I sure as hell will fight for your right to exist on this Earth. Individual rights are just that INDIVIDUAL rights. 

The # rule of living the good life and being happy is being yourself completely.

William Shakespeare famously said in Hamlet, "to thine own self be true." Like much of great classic literature in the English cannon these words are powerful and meaningful in the real world as well. Sometimes men (and women too) start feeling like they need to somehow change themselves as if they are not great people just as they are. They feel that others will judge them even if there is nothing wrong with them. That if they do not meet some ideal with the check list ticked off they are useless and not worthy.

I want to say right here and now that is an unhealthy mindset to have. The most important acceptance is self-acceptance. Just as self-love helps fuel external love in so many ways as well. Anyone whom really wants to be your friend; let alone wants to take the midnight express to O land will accept you for whom you are. If you need to deceive yourself or put on an act to get some or get friendship, or get love it is not worth it. It is living a lie and you are infecting your mind with a falsehood of whom you are.

Never lie to your own brain that is very dangerous. Always be truthful about whom you are with yourself and then the others around you. For I have a secret for you... odds are you are fine just as you are. I have gone through rejection quite a bit in my life, but, I have come to learn not to blame myself for any of it. Whether it was so-called friends that left me or lovers that all of a sudden my "manhood spear" was not good enough for anymore. I have come to realize over time in the end I do not need them.

Only the people that know me, the actual Christopher, the real Chris and love me are worth being in my life. People are not worth trying to hold on to that never really wanted me to begin with. I am better, we all are better being by ourselves than with fakers. Fakers are those two-faced bitches, cunts and bastards that make like they care when they do not. Or they care only for the superficial not for the really important thing you as a person. I love myself just as I am; I am perfect just as I am and I am all the man the right people need.

We all need to learn to love ourselves just as we are. Men especially with all the expectations put on us as men need to realize how great we are. How worthy of the right people we are and how unneeded the fakers are. Having 100 friends that all will leave at the drop of a hat is not a healthy way of living. It is more healthy to have a few great true friends than 100s of fakers. It is better to go through life with a few amazing lovers that rocked your world and wanted to be rocked by the real you. Than to have 100's of fakers that fuck you and leave as soon as the single wrong thing is said or done.

If there were rules I would mention to any other men out there rule # 1 would be just be yourself. That I think is the most manly thing to do. To just be yourself regardless of how many friends or lovers it gets you. It is more important to be true to yourself and just be you than to change to make friends or lovers. Rule#2 would be to stick to your guns when you being you is called out as not good enough. Just keeping doing you your way; be your own man. Now that is manly to me! Fuck negativity and live in the positive. Fuck unreasonable expectations just push on.

When I say be yourself I mean just that. No matter what type of man you are just be it. No matter what archetype you might conform to just be you! A liberated masculinity is about being yourself and it not being any less than other men's. We are not all identical men we are all unique and our own men. You like video games as an adult? That is cool! Gamers are cool! Also, hells yes they can be manly as fuck! Like the odd stage play? That does not make you any less masculine dude! Love pink? Then rock it and fuck those that knock it! You are not effete for loving a certain color.

Do you actually like the odd romance story? Guess what, still masculine! There is a definite meaning behind being effeminate and none of these match it. There is a definite meaning behind being manly and none of this removes that. There is a definite definition to being a man and none of this defiles that in a person. Do you occasionally cross your legs? Oh well, so what? You could cross your legs and sound like a quarterback when you speak. Hell, you could be a quarterback for all anyone else knows.

A liberated masculinity is just that; embracing that you are masculine that is beautiful and that you can be yourself while being masculine. It is not as feminists would like men being like women or men feminizing themselves. It is a man neither sacrificing his masculinity and manliness, nor sacrificing the little things that make him him to the fact he is masculine. It is an non-sacrificial view. One does not become emasculated by being an individual while being a man. For example; the non-feminine and masculine musical lover. (Yes, they do exist.) He would not feel the need to tame his swagger to his knowing all the songs from Cats or Phantom Of The Opera. Nor does he sacrifice his love for musical theater to the fact he has a swagger not a mince.

It is an individualistic masculinity that is neither sacrificing the masculine in a man nor sacrifices their personal loves and interests to their broader masculine identity. You can be masculine and know every show tune off by heart. There is a difference between loving a musical and emasculating yourself. This does not mean any man that loves a musical is masculine. Of course not there are lots of men that like musicals that are in fact effeminate to the point of being like a purse with balls. This does not mean because you like musicals you become that though. I am not arguing all men are masculine or manly;  they are not. I am arguing that you do not lose your manly card because of personal interests.

Nor am I arguing here that men whom are not manly and masculine should be somehow shamed to be something they are not. Anymore than I think us masculine and manly men should be pushed to be more effete. Liberated masculinity is about accepting ourselves; we are the men that are naturally masculine. The men that have masculinity as part of the very core of our gender identity and expression. Men such as ourselves need to be liberated from both our own inner insecurities and also the pressures of the outside world that say "masculinity is fragile, or masculinity is toxic." It is manliness and masculinity unleashed in all its positive glory on the world. In a liberated and positive state of living a joyous life of amazing moments and memories; built on value.

You could also be a masculine man that would not be caught dead doing a single non-stereotypical thing. Not having a single preferences or interest outside of the most stereotypical idea of being a man. Guess what that too is beautiful, amazing and a positive force in this world. You too can be a liberated man even if you are stereotypical. This is not about whether you do or do not. It is about unleashing the beauty of masculinity on the world confidently and filled with self-love. Filled with self-acceptance that a "perfect ideal man" is an illusion and in fact "you are a perfect man as you are." You do not need to meet some checklist of being this or that to be a good man, a great man and a perfect man just as you are.

Masculinity and manliness is beautiful; it is in so many men and repressed needs to come out in a positive and good way. A liberated way that does not mean men trying to be perfect and treating themselves like a utility. Like I always says we are men and not machines. We need to be able to recognize our humanity and not think that means to cut off our balls and be like women. Just be yourself that is what it all comes down to. If you have even the smallest inkling of a masculine side let it out, do not repress it and just be yourself. For you are beautiful! You are amazing.. You are perfect just the way you are and you need to know this. Masculinity is beautiful and it is good! It is in fact perfect!! Completely perfect! Love life, enjoy life, and enjoy being a man! You are an amazing outcome of evolution! Recognize it! Love it! Embrace it! Be it!

Forging a path to a personally liberated manhood and a liberated masculinity.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

I have been doing a lot of meditation this weekend and also sleeping a lot as well. Tomorrow is Monday and I will be back to work once more. I am embracing my true self; which is the powerful and amazing man that is Christopher Murphy once again lately. I am turning from worrying over stupid things and be ensnared in a cage within myself. I have been liberating myself once more to be myself the most me I can be. Learning to relax once more and just live life the best it can be.

I am liberating myself once more to be the most Christopher I can be without resistance. This is me; and me is a beautiful and powerful work of masculine art! I am an amazing and articulate man. I am smart, funny, sexy, sweet (not a Mr. nice guy though), and can be assertive when needed. I am a great man I can trust myself. Completely; I can trust myself completely. For I am a very high valued positive force in the world.

I have not felt anxious since Thursday night and that is a good thing. I have been relaxed all weekend and been basking in just living. Basking in just being Christopher Murphy and gracing the world with my presence. My being is a beautiful, magnificent and gorgeous man of a man! I am free to be me because "me, "I," is an awesome, powerful and majestic masculine being of tremendous worth! I have nothing to fear in the world from just being me at all times and in all things. To be a liberated man possessing a liberated masculinity.

My manhood is mine and mine alone. Only I can live this manhood and no other man. For only I can live this life as me. I am liberated to be free to think, feel and act my own way. While still not being any less manly than I am. For everything I do I do manly. For I am a liberated man, a very manly as fuck liberated masculinity. All I owe any others is basic decency and non-initiation of coercion. Not everyone will like me. Not everyone will be able to take this beacon of masculinity in all his glory. Some will hate me because they are jealous. Others will be blind to the beauty that I am. However, their blindness says nothing about me and my worth.

This does not mean that I am liberated "From Masculinity," as feminists and other misandric groups would like, but, the total opposite. I am in fact liberated in my masculinity, my manliness and my self-love/pride. I will never ever stop being masculine for others for it is at the core of me. However, masculinity does not equal being chained to needing to be some best of the best man. Nor does it mean that I am less manly because I am still single. I do not need to be in a relationship or getting pussy left and right to be masculine, and manly. A man's manliness, masculinity and value does not come from women. It comes from within ourselves first and foremost.

I am liberated in my masculinity because loving 50 Shades does not make me any less manly. Nor does having the Gideon Cross series of novels either. Nor does having Pink glasses or anything like that. Watching Murder She Wrote and not Rambo on the weekend does not equal being effete. I have said it before and I will say it again. These things are meaningless to being a man, to being masculine and/or to being a being a man of value. I walk, talk, sit (even if I did still cross my legs like I did when I was younger) and have sex like a man.

More men need to take a liberated masculinity mindset on life. Liberated from needing to be perfect to be manly. Free to be just the best us and to see us as being perfect just as we are. Manliness is not perfection and perfection is an illusion. The most manly thing you can do is love yourself as you are and not give a fuck what anyone wants or thinks of you. Manliness is making yourself the core of your world; followed by those you make your high values in life. I love the man in the mirror and I love this body I see. I love the mind behind the head between my ears. I will say it again and again.

Loving me is the most manly thing I can do. The most important thing is to love myself first before anything else. Love and embracing my inner fire in this man comes first and foremost. I love me! I love Christopher Matthew Murphy! I am me and I am free! I will not stand down in this! The world is mine and my oyster. I will not go softly into the good night! I will strive and thrive on. For I am more than enough and I am more than worthy. I am liberated to be me and be all that I am. To be all that I can be. Instead of striving for perfection always being perfectly, authentically me at all times.

 

Retaliatory Force/Aggression/Violence is a moral good. Why I am not the Peacenick I was in my youth.

When I was younger I thought violence by its very existence was a bad thing. I thought we would should or could all hold hands and sing lovely songs to each other with anyone of any view. When I was young I thought that the Military and the Police were all horrid people using violence against "innocent people who ain't done nothing wrong." When I was younger I thought that all aggression was wrong and I thought that to use aggression ever was evil and vile. That is not my view now. I have grown discernment and also grew a brain.

One of the things that I have seen be labelled "toxic masculinity" is violence and aggression. Well, this will tackle the naive idea that violence is evil or a moral horror head on. Not just when it comes to men, but, also humans in general. I think it is naive to not distinguish moral from immoral violence. Due to the fact that violence coming from anyone or any group can be either the most vile evil or the most tremendous good. It depends on the context of the violence and aggression. For example; someone breaks into my home and my family is inside. I take my hand gun and shoot the intruder before he can harm any actual innocent people.

The above example is violent, it might be even lead to the shot persons death if a serious enough wound. However, it is a heroic act and not to be vilified. I have saved innocent lives by removing the predatory force going after them. In this instance not only is violence an option, but, it is the best option to swiftly take out the predator and save my innocent family from harm. At one time I would have called even that a vile and horrid thing. I would not take into context whom shot and what for. However, that is a crucial thing that needs to be taken into account.

I now see violence for what it is. Measured violence with the appropriate amount of aggressive force as a form of self-defense is not only an option it is often the best and most noble/moral option in situations where other options are not an option. A man whom is violent and aggressive with a thug is a person to be admired and not a person to be shamed as being toxic. He is a person of high value indeed he is the true definition of a hero. To defend yourself and others using violence is noble because the person whom tried to attack the innocent is a savage. Initiatory Force/Aggression/Violence/Coercion is evil absolutely. However, retaliatory and defensive violence is an absolute good.

Morals are not Greys, but, black and white. Is it moral? Yes or no? There is no maybe, it is either immoral or moral. I am not talking about "will you fuck the neighbor tonight?" I mean, actual moral questions, is it OK to rape, steal, pilfer, murder, assault, harass and so on? The answer had better be NO or sign yourself up for fucking prison and get out of "civilization!" Is it OK to destroy your life? You can, but. it is still not morally acceptable to me. This is why defensive violence needs to be seen to a man or woman of a true moral code as virtuous and an absolute good.

We are animals and we will always have the possibility of being violent. This is why one needs to morally define when that is right or wrong,. good or evil. We are not some noble savages that are not filled with the possibility of aggression and violence. We are animals and like all animals we can be peaceful or brutal, but, what is the target. We need to as a civilization make sure those more brutal instincts are targeted towards those whom wish to harm other innocents and their property. By doing so we help to raise to the forefront of our Angel's of Our Better into the picture.

We need to eliminate immediate threats and predators in our mists. This is not saying we have a rule of men by men, but, far from it. It is very obvious I am not talking about being anti-rule of law or anti-innocent until proven guilty. Far from it a rule of law helps work out and determine in a lot of ways what is defensive and what is initiatory. Law codes are needed for a civilized society even Murray Rothbard an Anarcho-Capitalist talked about the need for an objective law code minus any States.

However, if someone can be proven to be defending themselves violence and aggression is a very noble thing. Can be a virtue and a tactical necessity for life to continue to exists in this species. People whom deride masculinity as being violent and thus toxic need to ask themselves one question. What would you do if someone tried to attack your family? Your friends? Your wife or husband? Would you just stand around doing nothing watching them violate them? Or would you want to stop their suffering by killing the savage that attacked them. My answer would be you attack my wife/husband/kids/house prepare to leave in a body bag!

Yes, you will end up shot if I were able to get a hand gun or even stone cold dead. You will not leave unharmed. Is that brutal? Is that aggressive? Damn fucking straight it is! I should be brutal about it! So should you! If you have the means to stop someone else from being attacked and you do nothing to stop them; even just calling 911, you are helping continue their being a victim. You are part of the problem and not part of the solution. Get out of the way with your naive little peacenick views and let those whom will step in step in to help such people.

If you see evil happening and you do not stop it. You are letting evil continue and not fighting it. True evil; not bible belt shit. Good people need to be willing to fight or evil wins. This is a truism and it is accurate. We are animals and the good people need to be animals in defense of the innocent. Sometimes' that requires bullets, knives, pepper spray or even your own fists. This is why Police when they are doing their proper job are a moral good. Military when doing it's proper job is an absolute good. Why prisons are good! It is also why personal self-defense and retaliatory violence is an absolute good.

This is something I disagree with "community" and "Pride" on big time. They are all peacenicks whom are anti-gun, anti-self defense and ant-military, anti-war at all times. Whereas I think there is Just Wars, I think the Canadian Military when doing its proper job is a moral good. I think that most Police officers are not evil scum. Some using excessive force is not all. In fact, I am glad they are willing to shoot to kill if they need to to save innocent lives. I think that guns are good in the right hands and that criminals never listen to gun regulations, and thus "gun control" is useless. (All the major Shootings have been in Gun Free Zones.)
I fully support the view of the "Pink Pistols" that armed gays do not get bashed.

I think that aggression, violence in the right hands keeps it from being in the wrong hands. Or at least keeps the wrong hands at bay. Most of the time those hands are male and it is men that do this fighting. For various reasons; most being the biological differences between the sexes. If masculinity has aggression and violence built into it we should all be thankful it does because it means it is a built in protection system against the savage and predatory animals; in our species and without. We should all be admiring this trait that the Tyranny of Mother Nature has embodied in males of the Animal Kingdom, including our own species.

This does not mean one goes around picking fights or being a bully douche. It means that when the going gets tough the strong and courageous protectors; historically men get brutal in times of need. I see no problem with with at all. I think if the peacenicks got their way we would be in a less peaceful world and not a more peaceful one. In order to be acting in the Angel's of Our Better nature we need mechanisms to fight the Devils of our Worst nature in the guise of the savages. If you are sweet, but, also willing to protect those whom matter with extreme force if need be pat yourself on the back. You are not a douche you are a hero!

Yggdrasill - Viking Pagan Folk Song

Viking nordic song Herr Manneling & Yggdrasil

Yes, I do cry sometimes and yes I do have immense emotions deep inside me. I refuse to call that a "feminine" side.

Sometimes people can be so layered just like an onion and be a mystery to the world. Other times people can show themselves and be not mysterious at all. Other times still one can show themselves only to be deemed something they are not by those whom wish to put us in boxes. Boxes that come from a flawed misunderstanding of human natures.

I have had myself in times of severe emotion cry, and cry again. I have had myself start crying over the death of video game characters from more modern games with realistic Full Motion content. Specifically; the 1000 Words scene from Final Fantasy X-2 is especially emotional to me. As well as the Aerith/Aeris death scene in Final Fantasy 7. I have had also emotional moments of being sad out of nowhere in the past.

My being a man does not equal a lack of emotions in anyway. Far from it I can be so emotional when it is appropriate. The truth is I can be an amazingly big ball of feelings and emotions. I can be both tough and strong, but, also a ball of feels when it is appropriate to be so. It is simply that is it not always appropriate to be a feels flowing over like emotional spaghetti. There is a time for rational discourse and also a time for emotional rain-showers. Each thing has their own time and place.

Some people have said in the past it is because I am Bi that I can be so emotional. It is because I have a "gay side," or "feminine side." That it is because I have a womanly side of my mind that I can get so emotional at times; even if I do not show it always openly. Or sometimes I do show it openly even when not appropriate, but, try my best not too. It is said by some it is because I have this "fem" side to me that I am like this at times. It has also been said the reason I love so deep for my partners is also "fem."

This in that case would mean Straight Males are not able of having immense love for their partners? That straight males never have immense emotions and feel deeply in general? That straight males never weep? Never have intense feelings? Never sob? Cannot empathize with anyone anytime? Or only "fem" straights can feel these things? Total and absolute bullshit I say! Total bullshit! There is nothing inherently "fem" in feeling and emotions. Nor about being sad enough to sometimes cry openly.

Masculine men have been feeling emotions and feelings ever since our species came into existence. It is just we do not always present it the same. Or show it the same way. I would argue even crying out loud and not hiding it is also not inherently "fem." I mean why does strength/toughness have to mean lacking empathy, lacking emotions and lacking heart? Men do not accuse other men of being this way at all. It is mostly ironically women that have said these things to me.

I have had mainly women call me "fem" for having moments of intense feeling. I have never been called less than a man by other men. Women label the things which are more tender as somehow "feminine." Why? Let alone being "gay." Me being human does not make me feminine. All men are human we are not machines. All men feel and all men care deeply for things in life. Why? We are human we are not some separate species. We are a different gender/sex and we are not a different species of animals.

Why does one being sometimes emotional liken them to the opposite sex/gender? That makes no sense. Emotions and feelings are human traits we all share and not sexed/gendered ones. Even Autistic people whom are considered to have no emotions at all; totally unable to empathize with anything feel a ton. This group is one of the most "masculine, and "male" typical groups around and yet they feel. Hell, they even cry!

One can also point to how the male tear-duct works and matures. Just because the tears are not running down a mans face does not mean they do not feel the same as a woman with waterworks on full free flowing. Hell, even if a man is crying at the same rate as a woman does that mean he is less than a man? I do not think so. Different men are different and not all men are the same. We are all individuals at the end of the day and we are not a collectivist hive mind.

My sometimes in some situations balling or weeping. Or being depressed or just plain feeling deeply. This has nothing to do with me being "feminine." Or me having a "fem side." I counter to love deeply and to feel is as masculine as fighting for those that you love is. Men have always been people that feel that is to be human. To have emotions is to be human. We are highly evolved 5th apes and we are not machines. We are human beings and men have always been human even if they have been treated like utilities or parasitical threats towards women.

Women might; and some women do label these traits "feminine." This is not because they are it is because they cannot stand seeing this side of masculinity. This side of men. They want men to remain the utilities to "society," and White Knights to others with vaginas. To put down their own feelings, needs and wants as humans to live for some collective "women." A collective of  "for women," which does not exist as there is no collective "women." Only individual women and some are cunts whom deserve men to not do anything for them. Others are good people for which helping them is simple benevolence and good will.

If men; even the most Macho man is capable of this domain of feelings. Of emotions and even crying. If it is not dominated by women then we do need to think about men and their rights. We do need to think of men and their needs in our cities, Countries and world. Not because one needs to be sending out the Feels to be human. However, due to us for so long considering it a trait of those whom are capable of being hurt to also be tossing that hurt out in waterworks. This needs to stop! Even if men NEVER felt like women! We are human! We have needs, wants and desires! We are not utilities nor walking wallets.

I mean it; even if men were not able to empathize. Even if men were not emotional at all ever! We are still human! Women are only one half of this species and to single them out for having needs, for being human is cruel, unusual and vile. It is to not see men as human; literally to see them as an other that can be targeted for anything or can lack anything. To say they do not need a support system sometimes like any other human being. To say we are not human! Well; fuck that men's rights ARE human rights you man-hating cunts. Having the ability to feel and to process that in your own way is not "feminine." It is human and men have always been this. Masculinity does not equal not being human!