Sometimes you read something so ludicrous it makes you feel like
hitting your head on your desk. Recently I came across a paper that made
me want to do just that till my head bled, but, as I am sane I did not.
A group of Radical feminist Scholars in academia are claiming that
masculine bisexual and homosexual men are somehow brainwashed fools. Or
are devious fiends depending on how you read their paper. That they are
in fact "becoming part of the masculine ideology of female oppression."
Yes, men not sleeping with women are oppressing them if those men are
not effeminate and are in fact manly men. The insanity is so high it
leaks off the page into the air.
It is pointed out that most effeminate bi and homosexual men stop
being feminine and begin to de-feminize as they called it usually during
or following their adolescents. Is this pointed out to be the obvious
testosterone flood of hormones and brain chemistry during this formative
time of a growing boys life? The most obvious culprit that they have if
anything received the replacement flood for the testosterone they might
have missed out on in the womb? Nope, not at all it is that they are
giving into "their oppressors" the heterosexual patriarchy. I have never
heard such ridiculous inane bullshit like this in a long, long time.
So, manly and masculine homos and bis are basically Trojan Horses
in disguise and they are even worse "repressing their true selves."
Bullshit, masculine men that have or even might continue to be with
other men are not "repressing their true selves." This is just what and
whom they are and nothing more. The idea that bi and homosexual equals
an effete pussy with a purse for a mouth and a swish for a walk is
totally built up from a straw man. There are 6 pack ab, Greek god
looking, swaggering Alpha male bis and homosexuals just as much as there
is heterosexuals.
This is insane! Most men whom have been with other men you would
not even know had been. They do not walk around saying look at me I have
been with another man. They are just a typical man with a typical
masculinity. In fact, most men that have been with men turn out mostly
straight as they grow up and more than likely end up in long term
commitments to women. I have noticed this myself with myself currently
having no desire to pair bond with a man. I would still sleep with one,
but, I have no desire for a commitment to a man at this time. Nor is a
man my first choice for mating, but, I am not going to deny with the
right one I could.
The role of biology and that we are talking about men is never
considered in this article. The idea that a man could "masculinize" over
time just due to internal hormonal and neurological forces is not even
considered. The idea that men have a hormone called testosterone which
when in balance and properly circulating tends to cause masculine
behavior and interests is not even considered. That there is an
interplay with society and nature or biology and neural programming is
never considered. The idea that testosterone will change your voice when
you get enough of a rush of it is not even considered. Or your walk or
anything else they might be meaning.
Next we move onto their thesis that the only reason to detest
Queens and "feminine" men is because of the hatred of women. First of
all it is not true in the slightest. To point out that it seems
exaggerated and performative over authentic when you run into a flaming
queen is not saying you hate or detest said person. It is simply
pointing out, "hey man you do not act like that all the time it comes
and goes.. just be yourself." Also, there is a difference between being
"feminine" and a catty toxic bitch like most "feminine" men act and
Queens are the worst. They have all the worst traits of the biggest
bitches and toxic women with a penis. Sorry, they just do! Trust me I
have been around the community long enough to know!
I am not a fan of flaming gay men at all to be honest. Their
attitude drives me crazy and I put that as the reason over anything
else. It has nothing to do with a hatred of women or even the feminine
per-say. It has to do with their attitude and it has to do with their
behavior. On both scores they drive me batty and the fact that so many
of them are presented as the face of bisexual or gay men drives me
bananas. It is my opinion that "community" needs a major injection of
men with proper masculine virtue and whom do not go out of their way to
perform a stereotype. Give me a man whom is not closeted, but, not a
camp "Queer Eye" wannabe any day! It is performative and it is annoying!
