The Quest to Revive Macho and Machismo as a Positive Masculine Archetype -- Double Edged Swords and Package Deals

The other night I wrote an article about how there is a revival of macho and machismo to be a positive thing for men. I also wrote how I did not know if it needed reinvented when it really only meant male or masculine pride. It also meant virility and strength as well. However, having searched over more dictionaries it comes to my knowledge that there is some not so nice baggage with the term as well. Looks like it really depends on which dictionary you look at what the full meaning is of the word machismo.

a strong or exaggerated sense of manliness; an assumptive attitude  that virility, courage, strength, and entitlement to dominate are attributes or concomitants of masculinity.

a strong or exaggerated sense of power or the right to dominate

 Having an unusually high or exaggerated sense of masculinity. Including an attitude that aggression, strength, sexual prowess, power and control is the measure of someone's manliness. 

A strong or exaggerated sense of traditional masculinity placing great value on physical courage, virility, dominationof women, and aggressiveness. 

So, it looks like it really depends on where you get your definitions from what it entails. For me I used the good old classic Merriam-Webster which simply states, "a strong sense of masculine pride." This still does not answer the question I posed in my last article about if the revival was worth it or even needed. For one, it is actually the word Macho that takes precedence in the revival. It is not the word machismo even though the two are linked in the dictionary. For two, part of the quest is a reclaiming or rewording as it were.

The question overall is the worth of reviving and using the term for something positive. If that means the term changes with the times somewhat that could easily be part of that reclaiming. However, the idea of changing the term also comes with its own risks. One of those is changing so much it loses any meaning at all. The other is changing in the direction of just being whatever the ubber-feminists want men to be. There are lots of ups and downs to using the term as an archetype of masculinity.

Within my last article I was clearly on the side of using both terms positively provided on using the proper contexts. Has my view on this changed since I have been researching further? Do I now think men are better off not using the term at all? Or am I on board with it as long as it is a reclaimed version minus the domination/superiority some definitions use? Well, I plan on hopefully answering this main question in this follow up article with more information at hand.

The issue with the word is it is a package deal; in other words traditionally there is both good and bad in it. It means pride, strength, virility, and control of a situation. It also means domination of women and male superiority as well though in some definitions too. So, there is good and bad in the definition as found in a lot of dictionaries.

It also needs to be put into context if it is in the bedroom or in everyday life. There are lots of women that like their men to be in control in the bedroom as a sign of their masculinity. Not just within the Kink community, but, just in general. Of course, a woman into BDSM would not want a man that was not about domination and controlling them. Context does really mean everything when it comes to traditional machismo.

The word macho has slightly less baggage to it than machismo and that is the word at hand. Does that word need reinvented or reclaimed as something new? Or can it be kept as it meant originally without being negative? Let us take another look at the word macho once again as it has linguistically meant. If we want to know if it can be positive we need to go back to the etymological root of the term. What does macho mean again?

It turns out that Macho is actually defined in a couple of different ways by Merriam-Webster dictionary.

aggressively virile 

having or showing qualities (such as very noticeable strength and aggression) that agree with traditional ideas about what men are like : manly or masculine in a very noticeable or exaggerated way

It looks like macho simply means a very noticeably masculine or manly man. However, there was also an additional line talking about it being characterized by displaying machismo. That other word we had been talking about above. Once again we have a package deal of lots of neutral traits mixed with a possible negative trait depending on your definition. However, the root is simply being male. The actual etymological root is to be male and thus to simply be a man. 

Spanish, literally, male, from Latin masculus

It has the root literally in a male being a male; in a man being a man. Which fits in perfectly with the idea of male pride put forth in my previous definition. Now let us see what the root word is for machismo regardless of its current baggage. According to Merriam-Webster the etymology of machismo is as follows;

Spanish, from macho First Known Use: circa 1948

So, in essence of the word and its root a synonym for macho itself. It is another translation of the same meaning. So, what other synonyms does machismo mean? According to the same dictionary they would be virility, macho, masculine, manliness and manhood. So, going by this let us trace to its root words mainly masculine, manliness and manhood.

 having qualities appropriate to or usually associated with a man 

• a masculine voice

: of, relating to, or constituting the gender that ordinarily includes most words or grammatical forms referring to males 

• masculine nouns

  

 qualities associated with men : manliness

: the condition of being an adult male as distinguished from a child or female

: adult males : men

 having qualities generally associated with a man : strong, virile

: appropriate in character to a man 

• manly sports

So, essentially machismo and macho go back to simply being an expression of manliness/masculinity. Etymologically the words macho and machismo are both value neutral. They are simply other words for masculinity and manhood. So, where do I stand on the revival of the term as a good thing? I think it is very commendable. After all neither word originally had any negative association.

The answer is not to sacrifice a word that could be perfectly suitable for a specific archetype of masculinity. It is instead to put it into context and define it properly. So, if someone asks if you are Macho or not provide a proper context and define it accordingly. The New Macho is really about removing the stigma from another word for masculinity and washing it of its bad associations. It is not so much about a new definition, but, rejuvenating the original meaning once more.

My happiness is primary and I need to keep my mind on that.

Tonight was a very nice night for me and my work went well. I never really had any sort of bad calls. I also had a lot of time alone with work as well. I was able to not be distracted from my goal of doing good work and doing it well. I was very happy with my performance and it made my night go well in turn.

After work I decided to order a pizza and also to listen to some movie reviews on YouTube. I had time alone without any real distraction after work too. So far I have enjoyed this Wednesday quite a bit and I am very happy tonight. Which is a good thing because my own happiness is of the utmost importance to me. It has to be because at the end of the day it is my face I will see in the mirror till the day I die.

I am very proud of the man I have grown up to be. I need to be happy with my decisions in general and enjoy my life. After all this is the only life I have and I will not have any other. after this one. We have bought one shot and that is it to live this one movie extravaganza called our life. My happiness must be the primary and nothing else. I will not let anyone or anything get in the way of consistent joy and happiness in life. I will not late any chaos around me consume me and remove my self from the equation. I am the primary in my own world. This is the way it has to be and the way it should be.

Dancing is not at all non-conforming nor Gender Queer in anyway. Dancing really is a Man's Game!

One of the metrics in the studies on non-conforming or so-called gender queerness in men; AKA gay traits is actually of all things dancing. One of a few metrics that are considered non-conforming in studies to which I facepalm and shake my head. The claim is that dancing is an "effeminate" trait and thus makes one gender queer or homosexual typical/gaydar inducing, This makes no sense to me at all and is counter to all of ones personal experience of men that do dance. The human experience is filled in our history with men whom were not effete whom danced and also sang as well.

One of the biggest names in this history is Gene Kelly whom famously said in his day, "dancing is a man's game." The truth is that men have been dancing since time immemorial and at no time have these men dancing been considered effete or "Queer." In fact, women love a man that can dance with them. Men that dance show how well they move which is often very sensual and ones dancing style can tell a woman a lot about how that man will partner with them in the bedroom. Dancing as Gene Kelly mentioned is also a form of athleticism.

How dancing became associated with men being womanly or associated with gayness, or with being effete is beyond me. The truth is there is nothing more traditionally part of the heterosexual mating game than cutting a rug with your woman. Was Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing being queer and a fag? Or somehow being non-conforming to having a penis and testicles? I do not think so. How about Frank Sinatra? Fred Astaire? Danny Key? Clark Gable in his musicals? Carey Grant in his musicals? Gays do not own dancing in anyway at all. "Queer" is not at all a word that describes men dancing in anyway either.

Dancing is a human thing and it is not an effete thing at all. No man should feel less than for loving to move on the dance floor; nor should they feel less than for loving to sing along with it. This also connects to the odd idea that musical theater is gay, queer and effete for young boys or grown man. Once again dancing is a form of athleticism it just does not use a bat or a ball. It uses the body and a solid dance floor. It uses sometimes props which are associated with the dance this is the dancers own bat and ball. People whom classify this as non-conforming behavior in metrics for studies need to have their head examined.

No young boy whom likes dancing should be labeled as pre-gay children. Nor should they be labeled as gender variant or queer or pre-trans or effete in anyway at all. Nor should boys whom like to be singers be considered effete or pre-gay or anything. These things are not unmanly and these things are not to be attempted to be pushed out of a person. Let people be and let men enjoy singing/dancing to their hearts content.

How Libertarian Are You?

You are 95% Libertarian, which makes you a 
Hardcore Libertarian. 

Watch out, we've got a badass over here. A hardcore libertarian, to be exact. In your case it would be patently wrong not to classify you as a libertarian as you are in complete agreement with almost all of the libertarian positions, save for a few pet peeves. Perhaps you are one of those eccentric libertarians who have a soft spot for the trappings of hereditary aristocracy and monarchy. Perhaps you have a personal religious faith to which you assign priority over more worldly matters, or perhaps it's something else altogether. In any event, though you nurture a few pet peeves, you really are an ardent libertarian. You probably use socialist as a swear word, and you strive to banish the influence of statist scum on your life. While you are not quite 100% libertarian, you truly are hardcore.

CT-GRI/BSRI Gender Role Test results: Masculine 100% and Feminine 44% making me Typically Masculine.

Results on the Open-Sex Role Inventory test : masculinity 118 and femininity 75.

The West needs to "Man Up, "Grab Their Balls" and defend our rights from Islam.

I was scrolling through my Facebook and listening to Blaire White on Youtube when I heard about the London Bridge attacks. One of the things on my Facebook feed is an image spread by Amy Peikoff about The West waking up and fighting back. The meme was one to which I completely agree and it awoke my passion for this subject. You see I am not a fan of how The West is dealing with the Islamic threat. It seems to me there is a serious lack of fortitude from our governments. With being afraid to be considered Islamaphobic by on lookers they refuse to do everything needed to win this War.

We are at a war and it is the dismissing of this which is leading us to be in the state we are in. Before one can fight a proper war one must name the enemy. One must then go to work methodically figuring out and then executing the way to eliminate the threat that exists. How to destroy and remove the threat from existence. Much like we did with WWII and eliminating the Nazis. I am not a pacifist when it comes to matters of self-dense of our individual rights. So, first we need to address the elephant in the room we are in a war that Islam started and it is against Islam. We name the enemy and then work to eradicate it.

The West is acting like someone whom knows how to expertly use a handgun and does not shoot the rapist about to rape ones partner. If you started trying to break into my home and violate the rights of myself I would shoot you. Shoot you too death if you refused to stop threatening me and my household. That is what I would do if I was trained in and owned a firearm. If I had a partner and/or kids at home I would be even more this persons worst nightmare. I would expect the centralized government we get taxed to pay for would do the same towards its own citizens.

In this instance no matter how pink my shoes or the legs of my glasses there is no doubt my mind is a masculine one and testosterone flows through my veins. I would defend the other people in my life whom I respect if I had the training and was in the situation to need to with a fierceness that would be the perpetrators worst nightmare. I would destroy the threat and eliminate it if it was a present one. That does not mean kill, but, to be honest if in self defense I killed and took life I would not respond by breaking down. I would not respond that way if the decision was the safety of an innocent or an attacker getting what is coming to them. I would be happy and filled with joy not at the death of this person, but, at the remaining life of the innocent I saved from destruction.

This is also the passion I expect and demand fervently from the government in protecting the innocent from Islam and its threat on all of Non-Islam. This is a clash of civilizations one being actually a civilized more modernized and secularized post-enlightenment non-theocratic world that does believe in rights. The other does not acknowledge individual human rights and wants to control the world in a One World Islamic State where no decent is allowed at all. A world view in which we are all slaves. When you have people wanting to enslave you via force to join their cause you fight back or be destroyed yourself.

We need to do to Islam and all its supporters financial or logistically what we did to Hitler and the Nazis in WWII. As well as what we did to Hitlers supporters we need to go after both groups. We need to completely eliminate the threat before it spreads like stopping a fire before it spreads to destroying the entire forest of trees. We need to stop this madness and I thought the Ariana Grande attack that just happened would have been enough to finally make the testosterone flow in our government and my fellow Westerners. Western men need to speak up and demand their governments act on their behalf for them to protect them with the expertise and weaponry at their disposal. Act as their protector which is what the government is supposed to be the centralized protector of our individual rights.

If Western men and women did not look at the previous attack and demand the government go full Hard On on these sick bastards I do not know what ever will. Now we have a new London Bridge Terror attack already and no one is taking the decisive action to stop the slaughter of The West at the hands of barbarians that have not even evolved to the point of the Western Standard of the delusional creationist or anti-HIV pond-scum. The Islamists and their supporters are literally the barbarians at the gates of the West and they need to be stopped. They need to be cut down and eliminated. The men and women in the military our guardians internationally. The men and women locally in our police and courts. These protectors need to grow some balls or add some steel to their ovaries and start fighting back.

I am especially sorry to see the State of Western men whom keep clamoring on about Islamophobia instead of saying Theocratic Islam watch out. You cannot anymore continue to kill our people. You will not go near the hair on the head of our lovers, friends and neighbors. We will not let you win we will fight for the continued existence of the defense of our rights irregardless of any sort of trait either immutable or not. The Western culture means a culture of individual thinking, individual rights and equality under the law. Any Country that agrees with these values is our Allie in this War Islam has against post-enlightenment culture. Let us be ever present and protect ourselves as well as others around us.

Western men need to get their testicle juice back in this war. They need to tap into their primal man and fight the barbarians too the death literal and figuratively the threat against us. Men need to stop being pussies on the playground crying when it comes to this issue and demand more of their fellow brothers and sisters. Women also need to stand up and fight as well. Women need also to take on the archetype of the protector and warrior that men naturally have taken over the centuries. Both of the sexes need to be in this together and push the government to take action and squish the threat we face out of existence.

Defending my Manhood and Grabbing My Balls

What is in a word? What is in a definition? What is in a name? These things often comes to mind when contemplating being in-tune with oneself to reconnect with yourself.

I am first and foremost me, but, who am I? I am Christopher Matthew Murphy that is whom I am. However, Who is Christopher? What is in a name yet again comes to be the question.

He is 30 years young and very tall. He is a good man and sometimes maybe too good for his own good. He has had many mini adventures over the years and faced hardships. He has had to deal with run ins with drug abusive ex's and being the protector of people that could have been his own downfall.

He provides for himself and also assists others he deems in need of his provision as well. Usually in the form of helping those he loves when they need it. This is not provision given to just anyone, anywhere and any when. This is a provision to those whom respects him back and for whom he feels intense bonds. He also is courageous having faced many of his fears in life to gain immense confidence in the end.

He is a fighter for those he loves. He is willing to do anything that is not sacrificing his own life for those whom he loves. He wants all of those whom he loves to be safe, secure and able to live their bliss. He wants them to have an amazing life, but, not at the expense of his own amazing life. He wants for nothing more than to know those he loves are always healthy and happy in life. Yet, he is not willing to sacrifice his own happiness and health for their sake. He wants them to get what they want, but, not if it ever means destroying what he himself holds dear. He wants people both to have a thick skin, but, also is willing to be the shelter in a storm. With the hopes that those others would shelter him too when the weather was unbearably rough in life.

He is a lover to those whom are worthy of his loving, tender and passionate embrace. He is not a prude nor easy. When he sees how valuable and worthy you are he will be quick to show it. In many different ways depending on your ties to him.

He is not unemotional, but, he is his emotions master not his emotions the master of him. He feels loss and he has great depths of grief when bad things happen. However, do not expect him to break down unless he trusts you entirely with all his mind and soul. Even then he will never show it in public and only in private. He is not one to bawling in a crowd, but, is not afraid to cry to himself or with close people he loves. He is not afraid to be vulnerable and even need help at times. However, he remains strong at all times in the face of all of the adversity of life. Stoicism is an underrated beautiful form of emotional mastery that too many people seek to destroy in men.

He refuses to be less than human, but, also refuses to act like a weak victim of life. He insists on seeing he is human and able to be a victim, but, refuses to play the victim in life no he is a survivor of anything he faces. He does not deny when he is a victim, but, simply refuses to personalize life itself as a slight against his person. The universe and existence is not against him and he keeps this at heart at all times and in his head.

He refuses to be a Eunuch because life can be tough. However, refuses also to bury himself for the sake of that same tough world. He both refuses to not have his balls and also does not put up with people not accepting humanity in those balls.

He refuses to be seen as anything other than the man he is, but, also refuses to be painted into a corner or with a broad brush because of being that man. He is all man and refuses to be painted as anything other than that. Liking a certain color or watching a certain form of entertainment, listening to a certain song does not castrate him of his manhood. He both refuses to not be accepted as all man, but, also refuses to be expected to not do this or that because of being a man as well.

He refuses to have anyone else attempt to remove his man-card for silly reasons. He refuses to not be seen for the beautiful work of masculine art he is to the world and in this existence. He is confident even when his body is panicking. He is strong even when his brain wants to make him be cowardly and weak. He thrives and strives through all odds in his way even if it is a roaring fire itself almost consuming him in death. Nothing will be able to stop him from living his life his way following his own souls call to action. He might not always protect, provide and procreate in traditional ways, but, he does it often. The 3 Ps of manliness exude from him in different ways every day.

He is not a maybe, a kinda of man. He is all man. He is not some non-binary or gender-queer snowflake. He is all man his own man. His own way and not the way everyone necessarily
expects him to be. However, he is all man. He is not a mixture between masculine virtue and something else. He is masculine virtue through and through. He is a good man, no, a great man. He is a grab your balls man for 2017. He is neither ball-ess nor a douche.

Most important of all he is just himself and does not fake things to be seen as more of a man. Yes, he has pink framed glasses, but, no that is not meterosexual or "queer." Yes, he does have the entire "Fifty Shades Trilogy," but, that is not "feminine." Yes, he does own the entire first Season of "Melrose Place." However, it is not like he has watched it in years (literally) and even if he did that does not remove his man-card. Yes, he has a Pink tie, but, that is not unmanly.

He is not "effete," but, simply is his own man. Unless you took a knife to his genitals you cannot make him less of a man. Unless you drained him of his testosterone you would not make him less manly and less of a work of masculine beauty. He is all man and is masculine. He is a great man and no one can tell him differently and one day one lucky woman will get to see how great he really will be to that one lucky ever loving woman.

He loves himself, I love myself and you will never take that from me. I own my own man-world and I grab my balls. My balls are all mine and no one else is going anywhere with them over my dead body. Cheers world!

Once we get passed the fear and keep going that is real mastery in life! I got this covered!

Manhood, Masculinity, Manliness : A re-orientation and review of masculine vs feminine

When I began this blog back in the end of last March and going into April I presented a very detailed explanation of masculine vs feminine. A very detailed outlay of manliness and manhood in general vs what some people think is manliness. In this post I am going to do a review of what masculine is vs feminine. What manliness in fact is VS not being manly. What manhood means in general.

The definition of masculine is as follows; having qualities appropriate to or usually associated with a man.  Of or relating to men or boys; male. Characterized by or possessing qualities traditionally attributed to men. Or things associated with a masculine brain/mind/spirit. 

The definition of feminine is as follows; Of or relating to women or girls.Characterized by or possessing qualities traditionally attributed to women, such as demureness. Effeminate; womanish. Or things associated with a feminine brain/mind/spirit. 

The definition of manliness is as follows; Of, relating to, or characteristic of men, especially when considered traditionally masculine, as in being courageous or direct. 

The definition of manhood is as follows; The state or time of being an adult male human. The composite of qualities, such as courage, determination, and vigor, often thought to be appropriate to a man. 

I want to point out to you that nowhere in these definitions taken from the Merriam -Webster dictionary do you see being a Football playing jock or anything. Not that I think jocks are bad people, but, I just want to point that out. Someone whom is a Comic Book geek or a Science Nerd could just as easily fall into this definition. Someone whom wears glasses with Pink frames (wink wink) falls into this definition too. There are things to do with masculinity that is so much more than surface level cues. I am all man, I am masculine as fuck, I am also someone that has had NSync and Backstreet Boys on my Youtube playlist.

I want to point out that so many of the surface and superficial bullshit out there bandied about to do with masculinity is not listed in the very definition of masculinity itself. That does not mean there are not any masculine or feminine things objectively. There absolutely is, but, superficial nonsense is not where those objectively masculine vs feminine things are. There is very much an inner core and life to masculine traits that exists. A=A and masculine = masculine, but, that does not = what everyone thinks it does. 

Masculinity VS femininity in a person is to do with ones mind/brain/spirit. It goes so much deeper than just the surface level BS that people take for the truth of the matter. It is made up of fundamental spiritual values at the core of a man and his being. Men; all men no matter whom they bed can have masculinity at their core. As long as they are in align with their Inner masculine core as a man. Something that can be accessed through serious introspection and realizing your inner nature as a man in our species. 

Have you as a man ever felt compelled deep from within to protect someone else? That is your manhood speaking, your masculine brain firing off testosterone soaked circuits to do your natural "job" so to speak. It is the primal part of your maleness talking to you; your evolutionary psychology and part of what makes you a masculine entity/spirit/brain/mind. Protection is a masculine spiritual virtue and value traditionally speaking. Men have traditionally for obvious reasons been the protectors of their tribe and it is from Sexual Dimorphism.

Have you as man ever felt compelled to provide for someone else; more than likely a woman or someone younger than you? Once again that is your masculine brain firing off primal urges to provide for women and children in your tribe from back in the days of Hunting and Gathering. So, wanting to provide for others is in fact an extension of misfiring in a way of looking after your woman and your offspring. This is a good misfiring because we can use it as a form of benevolence and good will towards others despite not being kin. 

These are only two of the many biologically masculine things that lie in all men; irregardless of whom you bed all men. By virtue of going through puberty and being drenched in testicle juice this is whom you are deep at a primal and evolutionary level if you are a male human being. Does this mean no women protect or provide for others? No, but, women that are doing this are showing for whatever reason to be displaying masculine tendencies and traits. Or as I call them Manly Women of Honor. Applaud them and give them a shout they rock!

What I think we really need is a re-orientation back to the true orientation and meaning of masculine. Away from the superficial BS spread by feminists and also equally BS spread my MGTOWS whom claim that wanting to protect/provide for women is a social construct. We also need to remove the collectivism inherent in both the feminist outlook and so many of the "brotherhood" people in the MRA. Both feminism and elements of the Men's Human Rights movement are just as collectivist. Philosophical altruism is underlying both movements. Men's drive to do men things is an individual drive. Neither all women nor other men as a collective hive mind are entitled to those drives. 
 
We also need to remove the idea that Pick Up Artists are somehow the only real men. Or that masculinity is the same as being able to get chicks left and right. Men need to be able to be happily masculine without a single woman around. Masculinity is not a performance it is a truism about men and the way our minds work. Let individual men celebrate as they so choose a re-orientation back to what it really does mean to be a grown ass man and not what idiots on both sides of the isle want men to be. Let us all just be ourselves; relish in the joys of being a man and all that means. In what it means to be ourselves. Just be ourselves irregardless of how others want to label us this or that.

I love Being Masculine!