When one looks up blogs and sites pushed towards men one will find all kinds of sites talking about "Alpha Male Traits." As well as ways to "become an Alpha Male." Having looked at a lot of these site out of curiosity I can tell any of my readers that about 90% of these sites are full bullshit.
In fact, they present things in a way which could be quite bad if one took them seriously. Most of them talk about how "to become an Alpha start doing.." so and so. The first rule of these sites is "you need to change for you are a Beta, a standard ordinary chump and no wonder you are alone women want what is not you!" They than proceed to tell the men visiting to change this or that. Some even claim to teach men "Alpha Male patterns that will make sure she is going to fall for you."
This all is so much bullshit I cannot headpalm enough over it. "You are not a man unless you mirror what we do and become a robot." That is what it amounts to and that "what is Alpha is what I do, so, do as I say or women will never like you." Like men copying others and not being genuine is the core of being "a man, manly, masculine and alpha." Not only that, but, by making it seem like women will hate you if you do not act like them it is holding men and their desires for women over men's head. It is the total opposite of what "men should do."
This is because what "men should do," is to just be themselves and do so confidently! You do not become more of a man or Alpha by memorizing some crazy lines or regurgitating patterns like a robot not a human. To begin with hating yourself so much that you want to change everything about yourself you are losing the very thing that brings value to any future friendship or relationship. The self that you are and the value it has just being whom that self is. Do not fake reality and never fake whom you are!
If there is one thing I have learned in this life is to never lie to others about whom you are. By faking some rules someone somewhere put down for you to be in order to become someone else you are buying into a very cult like mentality. As well as into collective delusion that men cannot be themselves and be valued as whom they are. That they need to change the very core of whom they are in order to be more "manly." Which is the total opposite advice that men should have.
You want to know what really unlocks your "Inner Alpha" as they say on a lot of men's sites? OK, 3, 2, 1. Never change whom you are for a woman; any woman anywhere for any reason. Just be whom you are and never hide it. Have a personal and internal mental point of origin in yourself and not based on other people. That includes women and other men. Take an inventory of all the wonderful values you have and realize that you do not need to change to have those values.
Take note that you are a man of value and to really shine just relax into being you. Nature to be commanded must be obeyed. To be able to have any sort of good habits you might be able to pick up you need to know what is natural and normal to you as an individual expression of manhood. Remember that perfection in being a man which so many of these sites sell is an illusion. One which does not really exist. There is no "perfect" men and if there was it would be so boring!!!
On top of that the idea that there is some bullshit magic pattern that all women will swoon for is completely illogical and goes against Evolutionary Psychology. Yes, we all have instincts and such, but, it is not about patterns or any such nonsense. Yes, confidence does a lot, but, if someone does not like you being as confident or "Alpha" as you want does nothing. Being Alpha-male if anything is being what Allan Franzen calls a "GYB" or "Grab Your Balls" man. Which means not giving a fuck how many women you get.
By making your life around women and your status with them you are making your life about some random woman somewhere. Not about you and pursuing your own personal happiness. Which is what a grown man should be doing. Pursuing your own personal happiness and enjoying life while you are alive. Before you die and become food for the soil in the ground. Live the life you have while you have it and enjoy it. Life is too short to worry about women or other men. Life is too short for philosophical altruism!
Want to release your "Inner Alpha?" Start nurturing yourself and become philosophically selfish (as defined by being concerned with the self and what is best for it.) Become rationally egoistic. Not arrogant, not above others, but, not below them either. Start nurturing a proper psychology of self-esteem based on a general self-respect and belief in yourself. Not based on being a special snowflake filled with envy, entitlement and triggered over the world.
In short fuck following some laundry list of rules that you must do for women or other men to like you. Instead concentrate on your character and being a good person, Not perfect as that is an illusion again. Not even a "nice" guy, but, a good guy a great guy. A good man and being yourself. Seeing how you as yourself are good enough and of value as you are. We all have some level skills that we can use in something. The values are within you just need to look for them and bring them out.
Nurture your reason, good judgement and ability to work in the real world. Nurture your ability to navigate the world and come back from failure. Nurture your ability to be kind to yourself and never try to be perfect. Whether that is called "Alpha" or "nice," or "the perfect man for whomever." Concentrate on being you and being the best you you can be. That is your Inner Alpha, that is the "perfect" you can be the perfect you; which you can be anytime just by being in touch with whom you are. Even that is not perfect we are all upright walking Apes.
