When you look over sites dedicated to men and their well-being one finds a lot of sites dedicated to what seems like more women's desires than men's actual well-being. You will find numerous sites talking about what women want. Numerous sites about women want this or this and to fake it till you make it, and "attract hot women today." However, none of this actually is looking out for men's well-being or dedicated to internal happiness. Which is one of the most important things to being a grown man in the world.
One of the primary focuses of this site outside of being my own personal blog space is to focus on men's well-being. To make a blog that is supposed to be about and for men that is not based on them getting a woman. Not based on Game or anything like that. Instead based on men and their well-being. What men need to understand about getting along in this world as it is. How to deal with A that is A that is our world. How they can be happy, content and flourish as men. Irregardless of whether they have partners or not. With or without women, or other men if you like them too.
Frankly, it gets annoying that so many men's sites are essentially setting women as center of their world and making their life all about them. Instead of about themselves and what men can do to have a good, flourishing and happy life. Men are not defined by women they exist on a deserted ship wrecked island where no women are present. Thus men and their happiness needs to not come from women. Nor should it come from the acceptance of other men either. Men should never let other men make up and define their "manworld." Ones "manworld" needs to be built on that individual man.
This means that authenticity is one of the cores of being a happy, healthy and congruent man. For this is your life and not the life of other men nor women. The number one thing for any and all men should be to figure out whom they are and expressing it authentically. You need to be the center of your own manworld. You got to be as real as you can be for faking anything is the last thing you need in life. You do not need faking it, you do not need routines or patterns quote-un-quote or techniques of any kind. You need to be yourself and expressing that to everyone you meet. Whether that person is another man or a woman.
Authenticity is a requirement to be able to find that woman or other man eventually as well. For you need to present your authentic self to your future partner. Even if that is just for fun and games. They still need to know and be attracted to the real you. Putting on a performance and faking it is not the answer. The person will be attracted to a fake, a phony a facade. As soon as the facade cracks off they will then be repelled from you and will probably not even put you in the "friend zone," but, cut you off entirely. At the same time they too need to be authentic with you or you rightfully will not be authentic yourself in being in the relationship.
To be a congruent and integrated man. To be fully and whole authenticity is a core requirement. Integrity is a core virtue of manliness and masculinity. To be fully honest and to have real integrity one needs to be real. Thus authenticity once again is a core virtue of being a grown man in this world. I would also add it is also key to being a grown woman and not a little girl. Integrity is a human virtue as well as a manly one. It is a universal virtue, but, it has been historically linked to being a masculine virtue as well. Somethings are both and it is not a contradiction for that to be the case.
So, fellas quite listening to the fake it people. Quit going to those PUA and Game sites expecting to get actual good advice on anything at all. You want to live a good life? You want to not just be a man, but, a flourishing man? A man of value; both giving and receiving it. A man of great breadth and whom lives an amazing life you can look back on in awe? Live as yourself fully in every moment as if you could die any second. As if the world will be gone and your vision will go dark. Embrace this one life you have and live it out loud with passion and confidence. Life is too short to not live in a manly joy! Also, when you are living from a place of intense passion and confidence women will notice, and, you CAN attract them to THE REAL YOU!
