What I am about to say will sound sort of Woo Woo to some and out to lunch to others. Especially those whom dislike manliness and masculinity in men. However, I am coming to realize the more I age and the more of time I am a man on this earth the heart of manliness and masculinity is a pure love. A love that is passionate; sometimes can be aggressively passionate and overly assertive, but, love. The heart and soul if you will of every man is love and passionate love pulsating every pour.
Providing and protecting is an act of love and benevolence towards the people a man loves and the others in the world whom might need that same protection/provision. Aggression while so often dehumanized is often an intense and passionate display of love as well. Used in defending the tribe in ancient times against invading hordes and also still to this day in protecting a man's family, or nation in defensive action.
Soldiers are not horrible vile scum, no matter what the anti-veteran types try to fling. Cops are mostly good despite often enforcing horrid laws and sometimes using excessive force. The Cop is using aggression, but, only does it because he has been told it is protecting the innocent from the predatory. The answer is to make the laws no longer go after Victimless Crimes and not to have denigrated men whom are cops. It is all an act of passionate love and aggressively helping the innocent. It is masculinity personified.
When it comes to the often sited "male domination," this too is love. No, seriously it is love as well. Males dominating the work force in certain places is an act of love. Men naturally love certain things it is part of being a man and having a masculine brain. Those things he loves happen to be the most dangerous and deadly jobs. He dominates them because he loves them despite their dangers. Why? He is doing his natural duty Mother Nature is tyrannical and they are listening to that hormone soaked brain. Following their desires and in by taking jobs most women do not want they are loving those women by protecting them from the deadly and dangerous jobs.
Same can be said of the idea of Males leading. A male leading is not evil, vile and far from it. Men leading are taking charge and putting themselves out there. Putting themselves into the most dangerous places for rejection or heart break. As well as danger from leading with an idea that might make them homeless in a month if no one buys the idea. Men being most of the CEO's are in fact protecting the women whom might not be able to take such stress from having to worry about the life of a leader.
One can literally go down a whole list of things men do just in a single day that is out of love. Out of nothing, but, love for themselves and others. All men, and not just some men. By all I mean the majority; the fucked up minority does not represent the masculine of the species. All of the majority love and do due to love every day of their lives. Masculinity is built on love; first on that positive selfishness of soul called self-respect and a proper self-esteem. From their it moves outwards like a wave among everyone they deal with. Love and pure, positive, radiant love. That is masculinity.
The majority of men are good. I am good, the man reading this is good if there are any. Masculinity is good, no it is better than good. It is a Universal need it is a necessity of existence. Reality does not make any sense without it. You cannot have femininity without masculinity. As they say yin and yang need to exist. Every man; from the most vanilla man to the ones whom consensually tie their mates and fuck them ALA Christian Grey. Every man is probably you will find good. Or at least CAN be good! The natural nature of the human male is good, and evil men are MADE not born.
People need to learn to look behind the external. Even the most aggressive, violent behavior can come from a positive, purely loving intended place. Masculinity in its heart and soul is purely positive goodness. Yes, yes, I am saying MOST men are excellent people. That does not mean there are not evil men there are. Again, they are MADE not born all evil men and evil women were born GOOD and MADE evil. Evolutionary Psychology says we are not noble savages to which I agree. However, even the savages that killed did it because of their instincts to protect their own; which is an instinct of love.
I also think the true heart of the feminine is love. Radical feminists and harpies make a horrid mess of femininity and make it seem vile. When it too is made at its heart of love, and goodness, motherly nurturing goodness. However, the feminine is not under attack and undermined by societies while masculinity is. It never should be and never should have been marked as bad. Love, yes, LOVE, is the heart of all integrated men. For it is the heart of all masculinity from a very primal place in our species and The Universe. Masculinity is love and love is masculinity. To love deeply is one of the most manly things in the world.
