The most important thing is to just let yourself be you. The unsung song is that you are not alone. We exist!

There is an old saying that sometimes the voice for the voiceless comes from places you least expect. That it is often the unheard masses that need someone to stand up and say I am here. Sometimes that comes from people outside yourself, but, sometimes it also needs to come from within. There are a huge number of people whom are out there right now that are just like myself. I am not alone and neither are you. What am I referring to? I am referring to Straight men that have been with men. I am referring to men whom largely go unnoticed and often are silenced by the so-called tolerant LGBT community.

I am such a man and I am not ashamed. The not-so-secret secret is that a good deal of people spending time in the LGB parts of the LGBT community come out/turn out Straight at the end of their Journey. For them being LG or B is part of their broader Journey in life and not their destination. It is much worse if you have been entrenched in the Pride and LGBT communities for some time. Especially if you were using the L or G and not the B as an identity. For the narrative is that sexuality is fixed and not flexible. That people with a G or L identifier are "born and deterministically so gay." Not possibly fluid or flexible or even possible to change over time.

The truth as documented in the latest works of the American Psychological Association and its working group writers show a different story. In Longitude Studies, not just one, but, hundreds from all over Europe, Canada and the Broader West shows sexual orientation aimed at the same sex is anything, but, fixed, static and "born and deterministically gay." In fact, many people whom asked in their teens and 20's whom identified as same sex attracted (ranging from homosexual/gay to differing levels of bisexual) end up by their 30s and 40s when asked either mostly or completely heterosexual if asked to give an orientation identity or Straight.

The majority of same-sex attraction in humans is bisexual not gayness. It is some level of both which the older you get is more likely to cluster on being into the opposite sex predominantly either with a mostly or completely Straight orientation. Now, this does not mean no one does stay and or is fixed to being 100% gay or lesbian. However, the true number is only about 8% of people in the samples used of people whom had sexual or romantic feelings towards the same sex/gender. Which means that most people with an ability to have these attractions are not gay in the exclusive since at all. Which means the narrative is wrong completely.

This article is not a signal to those religious fundie types to rejoice in their therapies they support either. As this change is completely natural and happens without any sort of "therapy." It is a natural change it is not a "cure" for for a disease of some sort. However, us literal silent majority of people whom go through the same-sex pool are those voiceless masses of men. Those whom have been on this Journey and are arriving at their destination as being what it is. It is what it is. Just let it be. Admit it, embrace it, do not be ashamed of it. Straight is great. Mostly Straight is awesome! Do not feel shamed into being part of the "community" simply because of your past sexual behavior.




http://dc.law.utah.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1023&context=scholarship

I love myself just the way I am. I am not perfect I am human and that is OK.